News Letter: Woman who lost both parents to Covid-19 launches online archive of grief. “Inspired by St Paul’s Cathedral’s Remember Me campaign, the website is collating tributes and stories of people all over Northern Ireland. Belfast Cathedral hopes that the initiative is a continuous legacy of memories retold, which people will be able to treasure for years to come.”
The Cut: Who Dies: COVID took my grandfather. But it wasn’t what killed him.. “My grandfather died from complications of COVID-19. The last time I saw him, I wore gloves and a plastic gown, and put a face shield on over a mask. I stood next to his hospital bed with my family. The doctor warned us not to touch him, but I did, gently, one gloved hand over his. That he should die without touch felt intolerable, a punishment for a man who didn’t deserve one. We reminded him that we loved him. My mother told him that the neighborhood bear had returned, that the farmers’ market had good carrots. Despite our alien look, he recognized us. The virus was bad, he said, but he’d fight it. He tried.”
Hollywood Reporter: How Hollywood Grieves Now: Tributes on Hold, Informal Zooms. “While actor Nick Cordero, who died in July of COVID-19, was recently remembered with a full-scale production on a streaming platform, many industry families who’ve lost loved ones are pushing memorials to 2021, as others plan impromptu videoconference get-togethers.”
New York Times: Don’t Grieve Alone. Reach Out.. “One of the cruelest realities of this pandemic is that it has deprived so many of us the opportunity to grieve in the most familiar, instinctive ways. We can share stories, cry and laugh together over Zoom, but we can’t simply sit in quiet companionship or hold each other when words fail us. After my loss, I ran out of words to share; I couldn’t imagine calling anyone. How was I going to feel connected to others, find comfort and strength in my friends?” Easier said.
Dame: What Are We To Do With All This Grief?. “I do not know how to talk about this grief. This American grief that I now carry in my heart, in my bones, in every cell and sinew of my being. This grief with which I wake up and go to sleep, this grief that has caught me, some nights, on the way back from the bathroom. It’s too big for me to frame, too vast for me to organize. It’s been overflowing the banks of each and every day since March 13, when the nation began to shut down and then looked up to see that we were dying.”
Slate: The Lost Dead of Milan. “As the coronavirus overtook Northern Italy, some bodies seemingly vanished. Now an infectious disease law could keep them from their families for years.”
BuzzFeed News: We Aren’t Nationally Mourning The 200,000 COVID-19 Victims Because If We Did It Would Be A Reckoning. “Over six months into the coronavirus pandemic, 200,000 Americans have now died from the virus — a grim toll the country hit Tuesday. Despite the enormous number of deaths — and the impact felt deeply by survivors of the virus, loved ones of the dead, and those suffering the enormous economic fallout — there has been no official national mourning. No minute of silence, no plans for a memorial to be erected in their honor, no collective grieving.” Understand this, posterity: every single American who lives through this will come out the other side warped. Not all in the same way, and not in a way that makes us lesser beings, but unquestionably and forever changed. When you’re doing academic studies of this even ten years from now, we will try are hardest to explain it to you, what it was like and how it felt. And we will fail, because it’s not something that can be communicated.
Phys .org: About nine family members to suffer grief from every COVID-19 fatality. “In a study of kinship networks in the United States, the researchers said that approximately nine surviving close family members will be affected by each death from the virus in the country. For example, if the virus kills 190,000 people, 1.7 million will experience the loss of a close relative, said Ashton Verdery, associate professor of sociology, demography and social data analytics, and an affiliate of the Population Research Institute and Institute for Computational and Data Sciences, Penn State.”
WNEP: Mourning America: New website for those who have lost loved ones to COVID-19. “They are more than just numbers. A brand new website has popped up as a tribute to those who have died of COVID-19. It is called Mourning America, and it is a place where family and friends can post pictures and obituaries of people who have died of COVID-19.”
Mother Jones: Inside the Facebook Group Where Doctors Process Their Immense Coronavirus Grief. “As she sat on her couch in her house, alone, sick with COVID-19, an unwelcome series of thoughts crept into Erica Bial’s mind. If I die here, she wondered, who would ever notice? How long would the neighbor’s cat take to find me? Bial, a neurosurgeon living in Massachusetts, works at Lahey Hospitals northwest of Boston. She was two weeks into her self-imposed isolation with the disease, when it took a turn for the worse on her 45th birthday. ‘I had been—I thought—getting better,’ she said.”
Reuters: Rare chance to say goodbye: Chilean hospital invites in COVID patients’ families. “Around the world, a need to slow the spread of the highly-contagious virus in hospitals has been placed above providing patients with the comfort of being with their families at the end of their lives. One of the greatest cruelties of an illness that has killed almost half a million people worldwide, is that many have died alone, lucky to bid a digital goodbye via a computer tablet or phone. Medical chiefs at the University of Chile’s clinical hospital in Santiago decided, however, to allow family visits and, wherever possible, create a space for a final farewell.”
Counseling Today: Counseling Connoisseur: Death and bereavement during COVID-19. “The novel coronavirus that causes COVID-19 has changed the way we do many things in our daily lives. The need for social distancing has resulted in virtual meetings replacing physical gatherings. Zoom conferencing can be awkward, and online happy hour isn’t as satisfying as hanging out with friends at your neighborhood bar. But, the loss of one particular kind of in-person gathering has been completely devastating: shared mourning rituals.”
NPR: Memorializing Those Who Died In The Time Of COVID-19. “Virtual vigils, streamed live on Facebook. Websites that collate the names and photos of the dead. Video projections of those we have lost, shining onto building facades. In the absence of collective public gatherings, people are coming up with new ways to memorialize those who have died from COVID-19. Perhaps the simplest, most essential gesture is to say their names.”
New York Times: An Incalculable Loss. “America is fast approaching a grim milestone in the coronavirus outbreak — each figure here represents one of the nearly 100,000 lives lost so far. But a count reveals only so much. Memories, gathered from obituaries across the country, help us to reckon with what was lost.”
Denbighshire Free Press (UK): National bereavement service rolled out for mourners during coronavirus lockdown. “An end-of-life charity has launched a national bereavement service to support people struggling with losing loved ones during the coronavirus lockdown. People finding it difficult to grieve will be able to access up to six weeks of support over the phone from a dedicated volunteer trained by the Marie Curie charity.”